Social media can feel like a minefield, and learning a few navigation techniques can make the experience less frustrating and more productive. We’ve all witnessed it: a commenter hijacks a post, turning the conversation into something completely unrelated or self-serving. This is becoming almost standard fare on some platforms, though certainly not everyone appreciates it.
For example, someone might drop an unsolicited dissertation in the comments, showcasing their expertise on a topic. The conversation becomes derailed, and the original intent of the post gets buried. Imagine I share a product or technology I find innovative or helpful, only for someone to passively aggressively tag a competitor.
The competitor might engage, liking or commenting in a way that shifts attention away from the original post entirely. The goal of sharing something new and valuable is lost. Another example of poor etiquette is the well-meaning commenter who offers "educational" insights, only to reveal ulterior motives. Their initial comment is merely a setup to promote their organization, using my post as their platform.
Understanding and practicing better social media etiquette can go a long way in fostering genuine and respectful interactions, which can help everyone feel more confident and valued in the digital space.
10 questions before posting a comment
1. Do I have something meaningful to contribute? Am I adding value to the conversation, or am I commenting just to be noticed?
2. Am I staying on topic? Does my comment align with the original post, or am I derailing the discussion?
3. Do I know how to construct an argument? If I’m presenting a counterpoint, is it well thought out and logical?
4. Can I back up my claims? Are my assertions supported by verifiable facts, or are they based on popular opinion or intended to provoke?
5. Am I refuting claims with evidence? If I’m challenging someone’s statement, do I have factual support to back my disagreement?
6. Am I engaging thoughtfully? Am I approaching this discussion with curiosity and respect, or am I reacting impulsively?
7. Am I treating others with respect? Is my comment considerate and constructive, or am I being unnecessarily rude or dismissive?
8. What is my goal? Am I seeking meaningful dialogue, or am I simply trying to “win” the argument?
9. Do I know when to stop? Can I recognize when I’ve made my point and let the conversation move on?
10. Would I say this in person? Does my comment reflect how I’d interact face-to-face, or am I hiding behind the anonymity of the internet?
Taking a moment to reflect on these questions can make for more constructive and rewarding interactions online. I know I’m a work in progress when I’m online. How about you?
